Let’s be real about this – #Twentysomethings are not the most realistic individuals. I don’t mean that as a slight, it’s actually kind of a compliment. Our heads are often in the clouds because we are at an age when most of us are extremely optimistic about the potential outcomes of our lives. We are faced with loads of opportunity, we have the energy to go a million miles a minute and we are so full of passion because all we really want is to taste that sweet, succulent flavor of #success. If you’re anything like me, you are reaching for the stars. Getting there, though… that’s not always easy.
What we don’t realize is that we are only human – as much as we like to pretend that we constantly wear an invisible cape and often refer to ourselves as [insert favorite super hero name here] – and that everything we do has a practical, limit. For example, there are only 24 hours in a day, yet we schedule ourselves for 29 and multitask until our brains are near explosion in order to cover that -5 deficit. There are 7 days in a week, but we commit to so many extracurriculars that we actually need 10 days in a week in order to stay up to date on all the work there is to be done for everything we have over-committed to. We definitely are not at the level where we can strategize a game plan for all 52 weeks of the year, and if we tried, it would definitely not be anywhere close to practical, so I’m not even going to go there. The important thing to remember here is that we, as individuals, are only one person, and when we are working like we have a twin, it’s easy to get burnt out and lose the the will to go on – que dramatic score in the breakdown scene of our life’s story.
Our outlooks may be overwhelmingly positive – because really, who else is going to keep us going if we don’t fool ourselves into believing in that bright light at the end of the tunnel? – but keeping up with it all is not an easy feat and typically requires overcoming multiple tasks #athesamedamntime. This highly optimistc nature also tend to makes us “yes-ers.” We say yes to every opprtunity because we feel like the possibilities of that one small shining moment could be endless. We also want to be valued and sometimes that leads to saying “yes” simply to please others. We don’t exactly know how to weed out which opportunities are actually worth our time and we haven’t mastered the art of saying “no” to the ones that definitely are not worthy. Saying “no” is sometimes a hard pill to swallow, but it can be one of the most freeing feelings in the world. It’s simply a matter of valuing yourself, your efforts and your time.So for all the over-achievers and those of who are constant do-ers, here is my proposed solution: surround yourself with people who respect your #hustle, but who also know you well enough to see the strain in your overly-concealed dark circles.
Grant them your royal permission to tell you when you take on too much and let them give you advice when you don’t know how to let one of those opportunities you “yessed” go. Those people are your “Reality Checkers.” They should be people who you really trust to have your best interest in mind, but also people who are blunt enough to call you on your unnecessary over-doing. It’s important to have at least one person you can really count on for a good Reality Check. Trust me, you’re going to need one eventually. If you’re the trusted source for an over-zealous #twentysomething, don’t take this assignment lightly; someone is trusting you with their sanity and that is a one hefty responsibility.
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